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I Need to Reframe How I feel About Hard, Productive Work

I’m in the middle of an acquisition right now, and there has been quite a bit to do. This morning I was feeling a little overwhelmed and kind of sad at the prospect of all the work I would have to do today.

But then I sat and thought about it… Yes, there’s a lot of work, but it was a major goal to have an acquisition of this nature, and I did it. Now I just need to go through the work of implementing it.

It should feel like a victory lap. Yes, it’s a lot of work, and that means less time for other things, but at the same time, it’s good work. I’m on the track I set out for myself, accomplishing the things I wanted to accomplish.

I should be happy to have it!

I think I’ve just sort of adopted a mindset of avoiding anything that threatens to take up too much of my time. Perhaps that’s not the worst mindset to have, but it should be calibrated.

If the things that are taking up my time are things that I specifically sought out and help me reach my goals, then it doesn’t make any sense to avoid them or feel negatively about them.

While working through it, I should be excited that things are going well and that I’m doing the right thing.

Maybe this is one of those times where it would help to have some kind of business partner that could remind me of these things. It’s easy to lose perspective.

But at least I caught it and am addressing it now.

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Temporative: The Direct Antonym to “Timeless”

For at least 15 years, I have been looking for a word to describe a concept that came up quite often. And for at least 15 years, that word has not existed.

Until now.

I give you: “temporative”.

This word is essentially the exact antonym to the word “timeless”. There are many words that approach the meaning I’ve been going for, but always require specific other conditions to be met or are only used in very specific circumstances.

The definition of “temporative” is:

Characteristic of, influenced by, or strongly associated with a particular moment or period in time; often in a way that limits enduring relevance.

Usage examples:

“I want to avoid temporative design trends in my kitchen remodel like all-white cabinetry and busy backsplashes; I want something more timeless that will look nice decades from now.”

“As you drive further out into the suburbs, you notice the rows of temporative houses which make it painfully obvious in which decade each neighborhood was built.”

In some contexts – especially when exclusively referencing things from the past – the word “dated” carries a very similar meaning and could be used more or less interchangeably. However, there are key distinctions:

  • “Dated” carries a negative connotation; “temporative” is neutral
  • “Dated” suggests only that something is no longer in fashion without suggesting that it was ever indicative of a specific time

So, for example, you can use “temporative” in situations where you want to point out that things may be from a variety of different time periods, such as with the suburban houses example. “Dated” simply lumps them all together.

But the most-important use-case for “temporative” is for describing things that are currently in fashion. Using this word, you can effortless convey that something may be in-fashion or popular now, but that it will eventually be considered out-of-date and strongly associated with the current time.

“Anachronistic” is another related word, but has an extremely niche use case. It’s only used when something outdated is found in a modern context. It’s not very versatile.

“Redolent” is one that could probably be considered a loose synonym, however it is perhaps too broad in that it means something is strongly reminiscent or suggestive of something else. While I think it can be used to mean a time period, more commonly it seems to be used when something is suggestive of an idea, person, place, or even smell or sound.

Another important point about “temporative” is that it isn’t necessary to specify which time period something is associated with. While you could say, for example, “That outfit is very 70s,” with “temporative,” you could simply say, “That’s a temporative outfit.”

This would be especially useful in a situation where there are multiple people wearing outfits from a variety of time periods.

Some relevant antonyms to “temporative” are:

  • timeless (of course)
  • enduring
  • evergreen
  • perennial

I actually did quite a bit of research over the years to come up with this word. First, I tried to find out if any major languages already had a word with this meaning.

It turns out they don’t! Almost all have direct translations of words like “dated,” none have a more general word.

So I took it upon myself to simply come up with one, and “temporative” is the best I could come up with.

You might be asking yourself, “why does he care about having this word?”

That’s a great question!

You see, words encapsulate ideas and facilitate understanding. It’s difficult for people to understanding concepts which lack words to explain them. Once a word exists, it’s easier for people to communicate and share ideas related to those words.

I’ve never cared for the ephemeral nature of fashion trends for things like clothing, but I dislike them even more when it comes to things like housing. If trends change wildly every decade, it means that you have to spend a fortune changing your house, for example, just to keep up with completely arbitrary standards and fashions that provide no actual utility.

It’s silly.

Perhaps if a word like “temporative” were to become mainstream, people would stop and think a bit more before making decisions that will cost them in the long run. The more popular and ubiquitous something is now, the more likely it is that you will need to completely replace it in the near future, and I think that’s quite silly.

So maybe this word could make people stop and think. Maybe they’d choose things that aren’t trendy now, but are more unique and timeless. That way they wouldn’t need to replace it every 10 years.

I was fortunate enough to buy a house a few years back which I still live in. There is some tile work in the kitchen and bathrooms that I believe was done by one of the previous owners. It’s timeless. It looks great. I have no idea when they did it.

It feels like I’ll never need to replace it, and I really appreciate that.

Sometimes you walk into a house and it has green shag carpet and the shiplap walls that were everywhere in the 70s, and you just think, “they NEED to do something about this.”

At one time it was huge, and then it wasn’t. And now these kinds of temporative design cues are a huge liability. They make your guests cringe, and potential home buyers head for the hills.

But maybe, just maybe, if we spent more time thinking about the future and trying to do things in a way that won’t make them outdated, we can save lots of effort (and money), and perhaps even add a bit more uniqueness into the world.

 

 

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I Need to Redouble Efforts to Avoid Phone Time Wasters

I’ve let myself start to develop bad habits again with my phone. This time, it has mostly been Reddit. For whatever reason, I guess I decided again that it was important for me to be kept up-to-date on what’s happening in the world every single day.

There’s way more on Reddit than just current events, though, so of course things spiraled.

I’ve wasted so much time lately on that website. And the worst part about it is that not only does it just completely waste the time used to view it, but it also seems to sap me of my energy and make me less productive and happy beyond that.

So it’s got to stop.

I’m making it my main priority right now to avoid that completely. From now on, I plan to really just avoid scrolling Reddit completely. I also want to spend minimal time on YouTube, though that’s far more under control thanks to my Screen Zen app.

I think the importance of these things is implicit, and I’ve talked about them at length in the past, so I don’t need to rehash all that. I just want to document it here so that I can keep track of it and establish my resolve to really take it seriously.

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The Purpose of Basically Everything is to Feel Good, So I Need to Prioritize Things that Maximize That

As humans, we like to believe that we are always incredibly deep and everything is meaningful and that every action and motivation is incredibly complicated.

But in the end, we just want to feel good.

Obviously there are many ways we go about feeling good, and feeling good in the short term often comes at the expense of feeling good in the long term (eating something tasty but bad for you, drinking, watching TV, etc.).

And, of course, perhaps some things feel good in different ways. Some things may be deeply fulfilling, while others may just feel like passing pleasure.

Yet just about anything we strive for, we do so because we believe it will make us feel good. Even for things like charity or volunteering; we think that we’ll feel good about ourselves if we do it. And that’s probably rightly-so!

But what if we just dropped the pretense and admitted that basically everything we do is an attempt to feel good? That’s literally how our brains work.

Even the most deeply selfless acts are most likely always the result of someone choosing the way in which they think they’ll feel best; often the resulting choice between intense emotional anguish or brief physical harm and maybe even death.

Now, you might be thinking, “I know people that are always trying to feel good, and that kind of hedonistic pleasure-seeking leads to a bad life.”

And this is where I think it’s important to note the difference between being impulsively drawn to short-term pleasure and carefully planning to feel good long-term.

I’m starting to think that it’s better to plan – virtually always – to maximize how you feel long-term.

So let’s look at a common example: drinking.

Drinking is famously enjoyable in the short (when done in moderation). But what about the long-term?

It would seem that even relatively small amounts of drinking have a pretty serious, lingering, negative impact on mood and other measures of well-being.

At the risk of being overly analytical, if you were to graph how you felt over time, the purpose of life (or at least the unavoidable aim as mammals) is to maximize the integral; the area under the curve.

While most people are probably decent at doing that for the next… 15 minutes, they are not so good at doing it long-term. And that’s what I want to focus on.

Sure, I want my highs to be high. But I don’t want my lows to be so low, and I certainly don’t want to be feeling bad most of the time.

Yet that’s where I think most people are. They live in an unhealthy way, they work too much, they spend too much, they don’t communicate, their priorities are off, they drink, they don’t sleep enough, and in the end they might have some moderately high highs, but most of the time they are very low.

And I don’t want that.

So going forward, I’m going to think a lot more about this concept and use it to reevaluate things like drinking and see if it wouldn’t be better to just give it up completely.

I need to focus on the things that will maximize the area under that curve at all times. Even at the expense of other activities, like working.

Pretty much anything that is “healthy” falls under this category. I don’t think total deprivation is necessary, but I do need to focus my efforts where they will be most beneficial.

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I Need to Start Adding a lot of Additional Content to Existing Blog Posts

I have learned recently that Google is really starting to prioritize posts that go into great detail about a topic and answer a variety of different questions. Context needs to be established so that it can use AI and answer complicated questions.

Obviously I’ve noticed for years now that posts that go into excruciating detail about something tend to rank first for most of my questions. It’s often quite irritating as a user but it doesn’t matter. That’s what ranks.

So my goal now should be to systematically add tons of relevant information to my website. That might mean just adding additional pieces of information to existing and popular blog posts.

But it may also mean doubling-down and adding more articles that are similar to the first one and linking them together. It may also mean linking more of my existing posts together.

What might even be smart is to take a category in which I have tons of posts, and write a huge article with the sole purpose of linking to all of them.

While my rankings seem better than ever, my traffic seems to be slipping a bit, and this might be a great way to improve it.

Finally, just an update that my Adwords campaigns have not been very successful. I don’t know that I’ve gotten any actual calls, just spend a lot.

I may need to revisit those soon. And if I can’t get those to work, I may have to actually pay a company to do SEO for me.

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Regrouping on Growing the Business

I’ve sort of trailed off recently when it comes to working on the business and growing it. For a while, I was really hitting the SEO stuff hard and totally revising my site, and it was working! But then I stopped, and now my traffic and results are dropping again.

Right now, I want to circle back on doing two things in particular.

First, I think it’s time that I actually write a newsletter and send it out to my clients. This will involve a few steps:

  1. Finding out when I last sent out a newsletter, then finding out which new clients I’ve added since then and adding them to the newsletter list
  2. Figuring out what big changes have happened in the industry to include in the newsletter (chatGPT?)
  3. Compiling maybe some of my recent posts if they are helpful
  4. Actually writing the newsletter and sending it out
  5. Coming up with a schedule to send these out quarterly

I think that it’s key to keep in touch with all my clients. They need to know I’m around and I need to be top-of-mind for them. They want to know I’m active and working on their best interests. This is the best way to do that.

I’ve made a note to prepare for this tomorrow and proceed with next steps.

The second thing I want to do, is to start producing content again. I need to be posting regularly in my blog if I want to rank highly. I’ve really been slacking here. I’m not sure when my last blog post was.

But if I can keep posting regular content, it should greatly improve my results for all posts. Maybe I should come up with a schedule where I write a new post every couple weeks, and maybe revise an old one every two weeks, too. Something like that.

That’s it for today! I think it’s really important I focus on growing, since I haven’t been the last couple years and that has been a problem.

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In All My Hobbies I’ve Opted to Nominally Do One Hard Thing – At the Expense of Fundamentals

I always hated “fundamentals”. I always wanted to just jump to doing the really difficult, impressive stuff so that I could prove I was good at something.

I remember with skateboarding, I always struggled with some core stuff, and instead of just perfecting each thing one at a time, I would spend all of my time trying to land – for example, a 360 flip. It’s a very difficult trick, and every so often – only from a standstill – I could land it.

It looked bad and I could never really get the hang of doing it consistently, but sometimes I could do it. And that made me feel like I was good at the sport.

I wasn’t though. I was just ignoring all the small pieces that were required to get good.

Or on the trampoline. I did get good at basic flips, but then I started doing backflips with a full 360 in them. Once again, it wasn’t pretty. But I could do it. And it impressed people and made me feel like I was really good at it.

And then guitar. I never practiced with a metronome, I didn’t learn any music theory, my rhythm was bad, and just so many of the fundamentals were totally foreign to me.

But I could play one of the more complicated Stevie Ray Vaughan licks. Not very well, obviously, but I could play the notes and I could do it quickly.

I think with all these things, there has been sort of a desperate thread to prove (to myself?) that I’m good at something. I skip steps to just get to the hard stuff because otherwise I feel like I’m just not that great.

And I also just get bogged down in the details of things and it feels overwhelming. I’d rather just go to something cooler and more showy.

I never put any of this together until just recently. The irony is that, in my quest to prove I was good at things, I neglected the very fundamentals which would have enabled my actual success.

It’s sort of frustrating looking back now and seeing how counter-productive it was. I should have drilled in the fundamentals and mastered them so that I could proceed from there with a good base.

Even now, I’m just realizing I do it with weight training, too. I’ve neglected all stretching and all core stability exercises. Instead, I’ve focused hard on obvious measures of success like my bench press numbers.

And then just the other day I injured my back again, ostensibly as a result of not building up core strength. In this case, I got burned by not building up a literal base of stability from which to expand my strength.

In work, I’d much rather take on major acquisitions than slowly build up my client base with strong business fundamentals.

So the question is: what do I do now?

The first step is obviously what I’m doing here: acknowledging the issue. Now that I’m actually aware of it, I can watch out for it going forward. I can pay attention and notice where it might be counter-productive.

I’m really going hard at the guitar again, and it’s important that I do things differently this time. I actually have been focusing a lot more on the fundamentals this time around, so perhaps I have already started to improve. But I do really need to dial that in and realize that being rock-solid on the basics will make the harder stuff way easier.

And I should obviously apply that elsewhere, to. Particularly with my business. I need to look for all the ways in which I’m neglecting some of the basics and really start to work on them. I already sense that there are tons of areas in which I need to improve.

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I Need to Totally Recalibrate How I View and Experience Things – Especially Being Alone

I’ve often mentioned here how I’d like to sort of get away from all social media and all silly entertainment, and I finally feel now like I’ve pretty much done that. YouTube had long since been the holdout, but I’ve been using the Screen Zen app and it has successfully gotten rid of the habit.

It’s not that I don’t ever use YouTube now, but the app basically just bugs me to get off it, and I do. So I went from averaging probably almost 2 hours per day on YouTube down to maybe 10 minutes per day. Which is great!

But I feel like a lot of wiring in my brain is being reworked.

I’ve been practicing a ton of guitar and reading a lot. And… Not much else, beyond work and normal, in-person socializing.

What I spend my time on has seen a massive shift away from mindless entertainment and far more onto productive practicing and reading in other languages. Both are things I’ve wanted to prioritize, and now I am.

But I think it necessitates a recalibration of many things. Some of this will happen naturally, and some I probably need to put some thought into.

Historically, almost any time I found myself home alone on a weekday (or worse: weekend), I found myself feeling very lonely and itching for some kind of distraction.

And I always found that distraction: mostly in mindless entertainment.

Over the years, any time I felt that tinge of restlessness or loneliness, I would just turn to YouTube or just watching movies or shows, and I could successfully ignore it.

But now I’m not doing that. The feeling is still there, but I’m channeling that energy into practicing things and reading.

Whereas in the past I never saw those as pleasurable activities, I feel like they are slowly becoming so as more and more time goes by and I get away from any social media or entertainment addiction.

I’ve heard a lot about “dopamine resets,” which may be largely nonsense as a concept. But while there may be no way to “reset” things in one go, I think that if I can avoid all of the mindless entertainment as an ongoing state that it will greatly increase my enjoyment of good, healthy things.

Since it’s all still kind of new, I don’t know for sure, but that certainly feels like how things are going.

So I’ll keep paying attention to that and see where it gets me.

I’ll also work on avoiding giving into any temptation when I feel that boredom or loneliness or… Whatever.

I think being bored is a gift. Maybe nothing productive or healthy sounds fun in a moment, and that’s okay. Maybe I should just be bored for once.

I don’t need to be stimulated every second of every day.

We’ll see how things go in the future, but I’m hopeful they will keep improving in this area.

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It’s Been Bothering Me that I’ve Been Too Focused on Entertainment Rather Than Anything Deeper

I feel like I’ve become increasingly restless in my life, (figuratively) and I’m starting to realize it’s because I feel I’ve focused almost everything in my life on enjoyment of entertainment and experiences.

Recently I’ve been very torn because I’ve sort of been planning a long Mexico trip and have been trying to work out logistics.

But I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m not excited about doing a long trip like that. And it took me a while to figure out why.

I’ve spent so much of my life simply trying to experience things, hoping that it would make me happy. But it hasn’t, and I think it’s because it’s just… Not that deep. It doesn’t provide meaning or progression.

I’ve had some great experiences, don’t get me wrong. But that’s not enough by itself.

For travel: I feel like I’ve gotten away from my initial goal of travel, which was to connect with other people, cultures, and places. But lately I’ve felt more like a tourist; traveling around just for hedonistic pursuits like adventure-seeking, food, etc.

Lately I’ve gotten really into improving my guitar playing and also focusing on consistency with my weight training. The latter has been more successful then ever thanks to my CPAP therapy.

So it feels like I finally have things that are deeper and worth pursuing, and that’s really where I want to focus my time.

If I go travel for three months, both of those things will fall by the wayside. Not to mention the fact that I’ll need to spend a lot of extra money.

Before CPAP, I sort of felt like I had no energy after working to put towards any pursuits other than just entertainment, basically. But now I have way more energy. Plus I think I finally broke my last social media vice (YouTube) and now find myself far more focused and motivated to actually do things.

I may still travel, but at this point I am thinking it will be just one or two shorter trips. I’d rather stay home and focus over the winter.

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I Should Approach My Life Like I Just Woke Up as a New Person

Since starting on CPAP, I’ve often mentioned how things feel very different and how I’m starting to question a lot of long-held beliefs about myself and my life. My perspective on just about everything is rapidly changing.

Which sort of made me think… Maybe I should approach my life from now on like I sort of just found myself in someone else’s body and have to decide what to do from here.

Everything that I’ve done up until this point is basically a sunk cost. I can’t get back any of the time I’ve already spent.

But what I can do is take a radical approach and plan things going forward as if I’m literally a new person.

Almost like if you were to buy an aging business. You would audit everything and take stock of how things are going and what opportunities there are, and then make changes – potentially drastic ones – to maximize performance going forward.

That’s what I have to do.

So many things that I used to cling to are falling away and I can see forward much more clearly. I think it’s time to take stock of where I’m at and what I actually value and care about.

One challenge at the moment is that I’m not entirely sure what I want. Just, generally. A lot of that I’m still figuring out.

But I think it’s important that I view my life going forward as a fresh start, and behave accordingly.

It feels a bit freeing to look at things this way. I can just sort of move past anything I’ve been stuck on and start from scratch.

I’m not sure how it will go but it’s never too late.